Elisa M. Thomas MA LMFT

Adult & Relationship Counseling Southport, NC

For a Healthier Relationship

Self Respect vs. Self Sabotage in Relationships

Self-respect is the opposite of self-sabotage. An act of self-respect is an act of self-love. When we set healthy boundaries with others we care about, it’s a sign that you believe you matter and that your thoughts, feelings and needs are to be paid attention to. We literally show the world how we ... » Learn More about Self Respect vs. Self Sabotage in Relationships

8 Things That Are True About You

"All you who feel yourselves threatened [aka, anxious or depressed] by this changing world, it's twists of fortune and it's bitter jests, it's brief [and sad] relationships, and all the 'gifts' it merely lends, only to take away again-learn this. This world will provide you no [real nor satisfying] ... » Learn More about 8 Things That Are True About You

What Lack of Respect Looks Like in Relationships

  Many of my clients don't think about how they sabotage their relationships by disrespecting themselves. Rather, they prefer to blame their partners for the way they are being treated and are resigned to feeling angry, hopeless, depressed and powerless. But they are not being honest ... » Learn More about What Lack of Respect Looks Like in Relationships

Losing Yourself in Relationship

You can't have a happy and healthy relationship with another person unless you have one with yourself first. That's just the plain truth. If you dismiss this idea without taking an honest look at yourself first, it will usually turn out that one or both people will find themselves in therapy at ... » Learn More about Losing Yourself in Relationship

Testimonials

Very attentive and supportive

Elisa has been very attentive and supportive. She has helped me through a lot of problems using my...

Robert H.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:44:45-04:00

Robert H.

Elisa has been very attentive and supportive. She has helped me through a lot of problems using my own strengths and attributes to get myself through the process. Her office is quiet, secluded, and peaceful. I highly recommend her.

A safe person to share my most difficult feelings with

Elisa has helped me to understand myself better and has been a safe person to share my most...

Wendy W.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:46:51-04:00

Wendy W.

Elisa has helped me to understand myself better and has been a safe person to share my most difficult feelings with. Her support has helped me to create and maintain fulfilling and meaningful relationships in my life.

A loving and compassionate space

Powerful learning in a loving and compassionate space. Thank you many times over Elisa!

Warren C

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:48:26-04:00

Warren C

Powerful learning in a loving and compassionate space. Thank you many times over Elisa!

Life is hard, but living it doesn’t have to be

I have learned through my work with Elisa Thomas that life is hard, but living it doesn’t have...

M.F.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:52:19-04:00

M.F.

I have learned through my work with Elisa Thomas that life is hard, but living it doesn’t have to be. With Elisa’s help, I was able to get rid of so much fear and self-doubt. I have learned to use the tools that she shares to transform my life into a bright new start with more potential than I’ve ever known in me. Elisa has the best attitude, a great knack for dispelling illusions, bringing things gently into reality that need resolution, and she understands what motivates me even before I do. Elisa works with me at my pace and honestly hears me when I speak.

We appreciate Elisa’s practical attitude and advice

She can identify and clarify issues and help us work toward resolving them in a non-threatening environment. We...

AR and DO

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:55:09-04:00

AR and DO

She can identify and clarify issues and help us work toward resolving them in a non-threatening environment. We appreciate Elisa’s practical attitude and advice. She is flexible on scheduling and very professional.

Recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period

I would recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period. She is a true professional...

Anonymous

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:58:57-04:00

Anonymous

I would recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period. She is a true professional at what she does and a good person. I had never received counseling before I scheduled an appointment with Ms. Thomas. I am over 50, financially successful and take pride in being self-sufficient. However, I was physically and emotionally exhausted due to an impossible work schedule and stressful personal life. Something completely unexpected and traumatic happened which brought me to my knees. I was so shocked I became physically ill and emotionally distraught. I was at a point where I was so overwhelmed I did not feel I could function. I knew I needed help. I called Ms. Thomas and consider myself lucky that I did. Ms. Thomas helped me tremendously and is a credit to her profession.

Transforming our formerly contentious relationship to one of understanding … love

At our initial meeting for marriage counseling with Elisa, we at once felt comfortable and an almost tangible...

NB and PB

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T07:03:07-04:00

NB and PB

At our initial meeting for marriage counseling with Elisa, we at once felt comfortable and an almost tangible feeling of love and care. Over the weeks, her observations, suggestions and yes, assignments, were spot on in their effectively transforming our formerly contentious relationship to one of understanding, not having to win, real listening and beyond all else effective communication and bottom line, love. No, neither of us is related to her nor had we ever met her or heard of her prior to early this year. We are also not being paid any sort of gratuity to write this. These are simply our heartfelt observations.
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marriage and family psychotherapist

State licensed therapy ensures appropriate training, ethical standards, and a continual process of professional education and self-improvement. My commitment to this work leads to a qualitative difference in your therapy.