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Adult & Relationship Counseling Southport, NC

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Am I a Christian Counselor?

Many people have asked me this question.

It really depends on the definition of Christian you use. What does it mean to be a practicing Christian? People have varying ideas and emphasis here so let me see if I can answer intelligently.

  • If you are asking if I belong to a Church group, I do not. Why not? I don’t believe I need a Church. To me the purpose of a Church is to offer a sacred space where one goes to be with their Creator to meditate, pray and be inspired. I do not need a structure to do that. I can do that on a beach, in a forest, in the mountains or in my living room- or in any sacred space where I feel God’s presence. Don’t get me wrong, churches are excellent places to gather as social groups. I just choose not to join them.

I pick my friends and close acquaintances using my own value and belief systems which often include individuals who may have different perspectives than mine. I enjoy engaging with all people because I believe one of the reasons we are here is to experience others by first trying to understand them, not alienate them. That’s what Jesus did. I trust my own understanding and values enough to be able to do that without the help of others, and if I need help, I ask for it. That does not mean to disparage anyone who chooses to find solace in Church social groups. Whatever tools you need to understand and practice love and forgiveness seem reasonable to me.

Even though I was raised as a Roman Catholic, my experiences in the world have taught me that sometimes, the most hurtful and attack driven statements can be generated by people who also say they embrace the teachings of the Church. I find that hypocritical and hurtful not helpful.  What we know about Jesus was that he was consistently loving.

  • If you are asking if I believe in Jesus of Nazareth, I absolutely do. Jesus taught us to love each other and forgive each other our mistakes made frequently of course because we are human beings. I believe love, forgiveness and our connection to each other are paramount to practicing Christianity as a faith. They unite us rather than divide us. If we say we are in a loving relationship and that we love our partners, the very last thing we need to be doing is criticizing or judging them. Understanding is key.

I believe we are the Loving Thoughts of God; He created us in His image and our journey while we are here on Earth is to recognize this and treat each other as loving aspects of our Creator.

I believe in all aspects of God as the Truth. I believe in Original Innocence not original sin. I believe the idea of sin to be an attempted attack on what God created and ultimately on God Himself, which is ,at face value, a losing proposition.

  • If you are asking if I endorse religious dogma, I do not. I believe dogma was developed in order to give structure and “rules” to what otherwise would have been a chaotic time. If you need a more structured construct in order to follow Jesus, then by all means, incorporate it into your life. I choose instead to keep things simple: abide in love and forgiveness and be gentle. This was Jesus’ way.

I do believe in the necessity to heal our minds to get back into sync with what Jesus preached and to truly know ourselves. This is the way to peace. Recognizing that we are all aspects of God-we are One in Him, we are not separate beings.

  • Finally, I do not believe in death. I think our bodies die eventually and go back to the Earth where they originated, but I believe we live in God eternally once we have no use for them anymore. I believe He is a loving God not a wrathful God who punishes us. He delights in all our discoveries and learning and is always available to us should we choose to open communication with Him. I believe He is a part of us.

I believe in loving and trying to understand ourselves and each. All the communication techniques I utilize in session are focused on this as well. If you decide to work with me as your counselor, I will do everything in my power to help you learn how to increase intimacy (connection and closeness) and understanding in your relationships. That is what Jesus sought.

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Testimonials

Very attentive and supportive

Elisa has been very attentive and supportive. She has helped me through a lot of problems using my...

Robert H.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:44:45-04:00

Robert H.

Elisa has been very attentive and supportive. She has helped me through a lot of problems using my own strengths and attributes to get myself through the process. Her office is quiet, secluded, and peaceful. I highly recommend her.
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A safe person to share my most difficult feelings with

Elisa has helped me to understand myself better and has been a safe person to share my most...

Wendy W.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:46:51-04:00

Wendy W.

Elisa has helped me to understand myself better and has been a safe person to share my most difficult feelings with. Her support has helped me to create and maintain fulfilling and meaningful relationships in my life.
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A loving and compassionate space

Powerful learning in a loving and compassionate space. Thank you many times over Elisa!

Warren C

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:48:26-04:00

Warren C

Powerful learning in a loving and compassionate space. Thank you many times over Elisa!
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Life is hard, but living it doesn’t have to be

I have learned through my work with Elisa Thomas that life is hard, but living it doesn’t have...

M.F.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:52:19-04:00

M.F.

I have learned through my work with Elisa Thomas that life is hard, but living it doesn’t have to be. With Elisa’s help, I was able to get rid of so much fear and self-doubt. I have learned to use the tools that she shares to transform my life into a bright new start with more potential than I’ve ever known in me. Elisa has the best attitude, a great knack for dispelling illusions, bringing things gently into reality that need resolution, and she understands what motivates me even before I do. Elisa works with me at my pace and honestly hears me when I speak.
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We appreciate Elisa’s practical attitude and advice

She can identify and clarify issues and help us work toward resolving them in a non-threatening environment. We...

AR and DO

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:55:09-04:00

AR and DO

She can identify and clarify issues and help us work toward resolving them in a non-threatening environment. We appreciate Elisa’s practical attitude and advice. She is flexible on scheduling and very professional.
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Recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period

I would recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period. She is a true professional...

Anonymous

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:58:57-04:00

Anonymous

I would recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period. She is a true professional at what she does and a good person. I had never received counseling before I scheduled an appointment with Ms. Thomas. I am over 50, financially successful and take pride in being self-sufficient. However, I was physically and emotionally exhausted due to an impossible work schedule and stressful personal life. Something completely unexpected and traumatic happened which brought me to my knees. I was so shocked I became physically ill and emotionally distraught. I was at a point where I was so overwhelmed I did not feel I could function. I knew I needed help. I called Ms. Thomas and consider myself lucky that I did. Ms. Thomas helped me tremendously and is a credit to her profession.
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Transforming our formerly contentious relationship to one of understanding … love

At our initial meeting for marriage counseling with Elisa, we at once felt comfortable and an almost tangible...

NB and PB

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T07:03:07-04:00

NB and PB

At our initial meeting for marriage counseling with Elisa, we at once felt comfortable and an almost tangible feeling of love and care. Over the weeks, her observations, suggestions and yes, assignments, were spot on in their effectively transforming our formerly contentious relationship to one of understanding, not having to win, real listening and beyond all else effective communication and bottom line, love. No, neither of us is related to her nor had we ever met her or heard of her prior to early this year. We are also not being paid any sort of gratuity to write this. These are simply our heartfelt observations.
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