• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to footer

Elisa M. Thomas MA LMFT

Adult & Relationship Counseling Southport, NC

  • Home
  • Blog
  • Adults
  • Relationships
  • Imago
  • FAQ
  • About
    • Testimonials
  • Contact

About

The Origin of LifeStance Therapy

Sacrifice Is Not a Requirement

As a young woman, I was under the impression that a woman’s role was to sublimate and sacrifice her dreams just to have the comfort and security of not being alone. My role was not to grow healthy and stronger and actually enjoy the relationship. Rather I thought my focus needed to be on another person and making THEM happy. That’s how I would be “of use.”

I was paying too high of a price for a life that was bereft of emotional and physical intimacy, honesty and fun! I was giving up the chance to truly be seen and understood by someone and instead choosing a life built on fear.

  • There is no sacrifice needed when you are in a loving relationship. It’s about sharing who you naturally are with another who is eager to learn and be curious.

Loving Relationships

This isn’t like any other therapy. With LifeStance, we focus on the energy you want in your relationships – love. We highlight the challenges embedded in the path to get there and bring your skill levels up to meet those challenges; getting feedback from beginning to end on your thoughts and the behaviors you choose.

  • Start with love and end with love. Individual and relationship therapy becomes conscious energy work.

It’s Never Too Late…

It’s never too late to dream again and succeed in creating the relationships that suit you best – a life that makes your heart happy.

We are the creators of our own experience from moment to moment. You can achieve anything that you put your attention into as long as the energy of your intention is consistent with the energy of the goal you have selected.

  • Right now, you are making the choice to read something that can change your life for the better. Good choice! You are already half way there!

Energy is the Key

Contrary to what the world would say about me, I focused on growing the energy that I knew was healing and authentic. And once I aligned that energy, love, with the compatible energy of the goals I wanted to achieve, LifeStance Therapy began to take shape.

  • All we have is this moment right now to do with as we choose. The past is gone. Your life can change in a heartbeat. It’s not about sacrifice. It’s about sharing the best of who you are with the world today. Call me now at (910) 446-3697 to get started on your way!

Call or make an in-person or video appointment with me today!

Call for an Appointment
Schedule An Appointment

About Elisa M. Thomas, MA LMFT

Elisa M. Thomas, MA LMFT
Elisa M. Thomas, MA LMFT

A well-defined turning point came for me at 47. I was working as an accountant for 17 years, having graduated from Sonoma State University in California with a bachelor’s degree in Management/Accounting.

What happened next was what I can only describe as a series of synchronicities and powerful interventions in my life by unseen yet powerful forces. I’ve always had a strong connection with spirit which has saved my life more than once and sustained me during abusive experiences.

I ended up going back to school and graduating from John F. Kennedy University in California with a master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology/Marriage and Family Therapy. I am currently licensed to practice in North Carolina, Arizona and New Mexico.

I feel strongly that we owe each other respect and dignity for being members of the larger human family. Helping others to live fearlessly in relationships is my mandate with the knowledge that, regardless of less than optimal behaviors we all exhibit at times, we are essentially innocent, creative and divine energy seeking to connect to others in love.

When I’m not working, I love to walk on the beach, swim, cook, garden and be with my friends and family.

 

Share
Pin
Tweet

Related Articles and Information:

  • Focus on What You Want More Of
  • Relationship Therapy
  • 5 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship
  • Self Respect vs. Self Sabotage in Relationships
  • Procrastination, Fear and Focus
  • Act Like It!

Footer

Schedule an Appointment

Schedule An Appointment

Phone

(910) 446-3697

Mailing Address

LifeStance Therapy
4891 Long Beach Rd SE, Ste 3, #259
Southport, NC 28461

Contact Me

Copyright Elisa M. Thomas, MA LMFT © 2026 · Privacy Policy · Sitemap · Website by Resultz Digital · Log in

Testimonials

A safe person to share my most difficult feelings with

Elisa has helped me to understand myself better and has been a safe person to share my most...

Wendy W.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:46:51-04:00

Wendy W.

Elisa has helped me to understand myself better and has been a safe person to share my most difficult feelings with. Her support has helped me to create and maintain fulfilling and meaningful relationships in my life.
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/a-safe-person-to-share-my-most-difficult-feelings-with/

A loving and compassionate space

Powerful learning in a loving and compassionate space. Thank you many times over Elisa!

Warren C

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:48:26-04:00

Warren C

Powerful learning in a loving and compassionate space. Thank you many times over Elisa!
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/a-loving-and-compassionate-space/

Life is hard, but living it doesn’t have to be

I have learned through my work with Elisa Thomas that life is hard, but living it doesn’t have...

M.F.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:52:19-04:00

M.F.

I have learned through my work with Elisa Thomas that life is hard, but living it doesn’t have to be. With Elisa’s help, I was able to get rid of so much fear and self-doubt. I have learned to use the tools that she shares to transform my life into a bright new start with more potential than I’ve ever known in me. Elisa has the best attitude, a great knack for dispelling illusions, bringing things gently into reality that need resolution, and she understands what motivates me even before I do. Elisa works with me at my pace and honestly hears me when I speak.
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/life-is-hard-but-living-it-doesnt-have-to-be/

We appreciate Elisa’s practical attitude and advice

She can identify and clarify issues and help us work toward resolving them in a non-threatening environment. We...

AR and DO

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:55:09-04:00

AR and DO

She can identify and clarify issues and help us work toward resolving them in a non-threatening environment. We appreciate Elisa’s practical attitude and advice. She is flexible on scheduling and very professional.
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/we-appreciate-elisas-practical-attitude-and-advice/

Recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period

I would recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period. She is a true professional...

Anonymous

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:58:57-04:00

Anonymous

I would recommend her to anyone who is going through a difficult period. She is a true professional at what she does and a good person. I had never received counseling before I scheduled an appointment with Ms. Thomas. I am over 50, financially successful and take pride in being self-sufficient. However, I was physically and emotionally exhausted due to an impossible work schedule and stressful personal life. Something completely unexpected and traumatic happened which brought me to my knees. I was so shocked I became physically ill and emotionally distraught. I was at a point where I was so overwhelmed I did not feel I could function. I knew I needed help. I called Ms. Thomas and consider myself lucky that I did. Ms. Thomas helped me tremendously and is a credit to her profession.
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/recommend-her-to-anyone-who-is-going-through-a-difficult-period/

Transforming our formerly contentious relationship to one of understanding … love

At our initial meeting for marriage counseling with Elisa, we at once felt comfortable and an almost tangible...

NB and PB

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T07:03:07-04:00

NB and PB

At our initial meeting for marriage counseling with Elisa, we at once felt comfortable and an almost tangible feeling of love and care. Over the weeks, her observations, suggestions and yes, assignments, were spot on in their effectively transforming our formerly contentious relationship to one of understanding, not having to win, real listening and beyond all else effective communication and bottom line, love. No, neither of us is related to her nor had we ever met her or heard of her prior to early this year. We are also not being paid any sort of gratuity to write this. These are simply our heartfelt observations.
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/transforming-our-formerly-contentious-relationship-to-one-of-understanding-love/

Very attentive and supportive

Elisa has been very attentive and supportive. She has helped me through a lot of problems using my...

Robert H.

marriage and family psychotherapist
5
2019-04-23T06:44:45-04:00

Robert H.

Elisa has been very attentive and supportive. She has helped me through a lot of problems using my own strengths and attributes to get myself through the process. Her office is quiet, secluded, and peaceful. I highly recommend her.
https://southportfamilytherapy.com/testimonials/very-attentive-and-supportive/
5
7
marriage and family psychotherapist

State licensed therapy ensures appropriate training, ethical standards, and a continual process of professional education and self-improvement. My commitment to this work leads to a qualitative difference in your therapy.

Before you leave, consider taking advantage of a FREE 20 minute phone consultation.

It just might change the way you see things.

Click To Schedule Now!